Working Relationshps

So you have a boss who seems to have turned against you (for no apparent reason), or you didn’t get on with them once you got the job.  What to do?  A number of options: 1. Find a moment when they are amenable and suggest having a discussion about your concerns.  2. Do nothing and suffer in silence.  3. Talk to someone who you know gets on with them and can be trusted to be objective.  4. Take your time, look for another job and resign, leaving with your dignity intact. 

Option 1.  Your boss could have such dislike of you that they do their best to avoid any meeting where you might express your concerns.  They could meet with you and be totally surprised at your perception of their interactions with you.  You might find they think conflict is a good tool to use in the workplace, and have failed to realise that you (and maybe other staff) are in fact demotivated by this tactic.  However you could find that this person is manipulative and has no intention of changing their ways. 

Option 2.  If you choose to say nothing, you could find yourself performing poorly – dissatisfaction has to manifest somewhere, somehow.  This could result in you being placed on disciplinary measures.   Talk to Human Resources and have recorded (noted) evidence that proves you are being mistreated.  Maybe your situation is such that you need a job,; yes, but not a job at any price, including your sanity.  Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, value yourself, and try to find work elsewhere. 

Option 3.  Talking to someone else could help you see ways to get along with the boss.  However, you need to be sure that this person will listen carefully, and be able to give advice that is not based on their emotions, but on what might be most helpful to/right for you. 

Option 4.  You may love the job, but find the circumstances around it intolerable.  Looking for another job, means that you recognise you have other alternatives to staying.  However, if you are the one with the issue, then you will take it with you to the next workplace and may encounter a similar situation. 

Before doing any of the above, might it be best to reflect on your approach and see if you put anything negative into the situation?

Wha other options can you suggest (which are legal)?