We measure faithfulness by how frequently and persistently a person participates in an activity or project, or maintains a particular role. The danger lies in our demanding such loyalty to the cause they feel pushed to relinquish what is truly important – being faithful to their self. Giving a person space to step back, allows them to reflect on their contribution, revise their thoughts, recapture motivation, and perhaps in the future re-enter. Refusal’s outcome includes frustration, anger, resentment, rejection and disassociation.
Do you want to withdraw from participating? Fear ‘their’ disappointment? Consider why you want/need to step back, and recognise its value to you. Have an outcome in mind so you’re not stepping back into an abyss. Not sure? Stop. Wait. Give yourself time. Discover. Many people get lost because they stride away quickly, forgetting why they made the decision, and not acknowledging their innate need for destination. It’s your opportunity to grow who you are, will be, and what you believe. If you appreciate this it’s easier to communicate your reasoning. Confusion and attempts at persuasion to remain happen when communication is fuzzy.
Allow the step back chance to become a successful step forward again on a positive, constructive pathway.
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